a mothers love
“I wish we would have gotten to know each other better.”
This is a statement that has been echoing through my mind for the last few days. It is something that was said to me the other night that i will probably never forget.
I was having a text conversation with my mom as i was drifting off to sleep and this is what it ended on. “I wish we would have gotten to know each other better.”
My mom and my relationship is not bad…it is not something that i would like to block out of my memory. it was just never very strong. I never confided in her. I never went to her with problems, or asked her advice. I hid things from her and from others. So our relationship was never able to grow. I kept her out of my world.
While i was growing up i didn’t want to get advice from her. You think you know everything and your parents are just from “another time” and dont know what they are talking about. So when I left home at 18… i still thought i knew everything.
through the time of being here the void of not having my mother in my city i found women around me to be that kind of person in my life. These people poured so much into me. They were wise and taught me so much.
But now that i am older (stop laughing…i said older not old) i am realizing how wise my mom really is.
But now, I also wish that we could have gotten to know each other better. There is a missing part in my life….one that only my mom can fill. I have regret for the years that i shut her out. Those are years that i can not get back.
This is hi-lighted in my mind right now in the process of getting married. I want her here. I want her help. I want my mom. I want to get to know her better. She has wisdom on how to be a wife. She knows me better than i think she does.
But from now on I am going to work on making sure we get to know each other better.
Filed under: family, me, relationships
I can so relate. I did the same thing with my parents. I not only shut them out, but spoke ill of them to my friends, so much so that my boyfriend (now husband) was scared to meet my dad. It has taken a lot of years to undo the damage I did to my dad’s reputation (among my friends). My mom and I became good friends as we planned my wedding (I was still living at home). She is now one of my best friends. I pray that your relationship with your mom continues to flourish!!
No doubt that it will. We are both making an effort to make it good.
Thank you for your encouragement!!!!
What can I do to help this week? I just found your blog from Anne’s. I found her’s from boomama’s. Small/big world, huh?
Tears are running down my cheeks as I read your comments on your relationship with your mom. I always thought my daughter and I were close. After some really trying issues she moved out last fall. The relationship has gone downhill and we CANNOT get back on track…healing seems elusive. My heart is broken.
I am so glad you can see what can be. It’s not to late!
I will be praying for you! I know that times it can be discouraging, but things will come around. As long as you keep open communication even when it is hard or there is push back you have a relationship.
It is never too late to turn things around!!!